I beg to disagree with you in that regard. Here is what it accomplishes from a womyn's perspective:
1. Her partner cares enough for her to make her his wife.
2. Her partner cares enough for her to put it in writing.
3. Her partner is concerned about her reputation.
4. Her partner is concerned about legitimizing their seeds. (Sad as it may be, chldren born out of wedlock are still referred to as "bastards," and treated differently at the family reunion.)
5. Her partner agrees to this commitment to show his trustworthiness and his hope for the best where she is concerned.
6. Her partner wants to make this "official" as one bredren posted and to put her mind at rest that he is in it for the long haul and will not abandon her or their family at the first sign of conflict.
7. Her partner wants to prove to her that this is not all "just talk," that he is not about B.S. when it comes to BUILDING with her.
Just a few reasons from a womyn's perspective.
I try to imagine someone approaching an empress and saying:
"Empress, I want to to have sex with you, hopefully relieve you of your virginity, and impregnate you without benefit of marriage, because I am committed to you and I love you. By the way, Empress, I am NOT willing to put any of this in writing. I am NOT willing to make it official. I know putting it in writing would not hurt anything, I just do not want to do that. I know it would do much to comfort and encourage you regarding my intentions for you, but I simply WILL NOT put it in writing, because I FEEL IT WOULD NOT ACCOMPLISH ANYTHJING!"
Which one of you men would want that kind of man for your daughter?
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