First, I apologize if any women are sensitive to this subject or offended by this but I do think its good to be honest. However, if you're sensitive please skip over this post.
I have to agree with CarterBlunt. He is 100% on point that it is all about the golden ratio. And really we should all know this. It is the same reason we can look at baby animals and agree on how cute they are. Disney understands this too which is why Baby Yoda is our new deity. You cannot get around this. And it's not a racial thing unless you MAKE IT ONE. For example... we might still feel some kind of way because minstrel shows had whites dressing up in black face and exaggerating color and lip size. But that's because their lips are normally relatively smaller.
But eventually, the things that were made fun of in the past because they were connected with race, now people are getting injections and implants because the idea of beauty and sensuality has transcended race. And now if a person cannot see examples of beauty in another race its likely because they're actively refusing to and are in a state of denial. So if you can't see Beyonce is hot, something's wrong with you. If you can't see Salma Hayek is hot, something's wrong with you. If you can't see Catherine Zeta Jones is hot, again, something's wrong with you. They're not honest with themselves or with the world around them. And without honesty, without keeping it "real", our connections with each other become fake. And we can't truly move forward because we can't really know each other.
And thus we are left with stereotypes.
Although I'm a bad example of this, I do know that the black men = big dicks myth is just that. But we, as men, aren't literally checking each other's dick sizes. Rarely are ANY of the people in porn representative of real life norms. Most women don't look like porn stars and don't have any sort of golden or even silver ratio when it comes to chest, hips, and ass. They're are extremely augmented in order to fit into a fantasy. Women have fantasies too. And so it serves the purpose of fantasy to keep that myth alive.
But in real life, they're not just taking any black guy to bed, expecting a monster to come out. They're more selective than that (if they can afford to be) and so they look for other traits that just so happen to correlate to size. However, google will tell you the myth isn't true and I believe the biggest dick recorded belonged to a white guy. So I don't know. White guys... I don't know how you would even go about debunking that myth and it probably doesn't matter that much anyway. And you may want to leave it alone because for similar reasons cops seem to fantasize about black men being physically more dangerous in spite of the massive amount of genetic diversity we have that makes us come in all different shapes and sizes. And there's a whole industry for men, trying to get bigger to make themselves more appealing to female fantasies.
But with porn its all about fantasy, not reality. Strip clubs... fantasy. Not reality. Yes, some people get confused, but that's their fault. It's a job. And that's why the black guys that get selected by white owned porn companies will always have big dicks. Otherwise, it doesn't fit the fantasy so what's the point in that?
I also agree about the need for "procreative racial deconstruction" and I have volunteered and willing to volunteer my exes. Take my ex-wife, for example. Please. The world will be a better place when we all have sex with each other and either we turn back into one race that looks like the San tribe of Africa, or we just stop caring what color each other's skin is because we all have black and white and everything in between in our family. Homosexuals didn't get accepted because of marches. They got accepted because too many of us have them in our families and we know them and love them. When you love someone you accept them for who they are. But if its not in your family well then you don't have to be around them, don't have to know that person, and aren't in danger of caring. I have a gay cousin who I love just as much as my other cousins.
I also agree with "mentally deleting him from the scene". That's true. And in fact, the male actor is supposed to be more of a prop in the scene. If the camera is on him too much its a turn off. That's why Ron Jeremy was so prolific in the industry. He was an everyman and guys also rooted for him as part of our brains fight to make sense of how a guy who looks like this could get a woman who looks like that. If you're focused too much on the guy you might be attracted to guys.
Why worry if someone fetishizes you? Granted, that person may not be able to separate the fantasy from reality and so there could be problems if you want a real relationship but I've never come across a white woman who couldn't have a real relationship and most of them had relationships as long as 8-10 years and were very loyal. So if you can have a little fantasy inside of your reality... that's actually a good thing. It's like if your favorite food was actually healthy for you too. Being wanted feels great! Especially at my age. But we let religion and politics influence us too much about what we're supposed to like or be attracted to. Pizza isn't an African dish. Am I supposed to not like pizza or feel guilty for enjoying it? Conversely, if you don't like something just because of where it came from, to me that's problematic.
Now there are white women who are more attracted to black men, white women who are equal opportunity, and white women who are simply not attracted to white men. Are they racist against themselves? No. These are simply preferences. You're allowed to have them and everyone does. Preferences predate the notion of race. Should Bob Marley's parents have stayed far away from each other and vomited a little at the sight of each other's naked bodies?
And yes, sometimes black people shame each other for interracial relationships. And there's still some anxiety about bring one home to moms. But honestly, most of that has to do with fear; fear of what people will think, say, etc. Ultimately, seeing the beauty in each other and overcoming that fear and hate, is what will end racism. And is that not what we want?
Watch more porn.
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