Many people don't Iverstand how intelligent small children are. So they raise them at a lower standard than the children are capable of. This slows the development of children because they are not challenged enough to rise up quicker.
Some parents allow their children to deal with a lot of foolishness when they are young, and when they become a little older, they suddenly impose so many restrictions on them. So when these children are faced with all these restrictions, they rebel, because they are used to getting away with so much.
From a very young age, children can Iverstand a lot of what they are told. People just need to learn to explain things in words the child Iverstands. Just telling a child NO, is not good enough, their intelligence won't allow for that. Imagine if someone came up to you and told you don't do that, or don't do this. You would tell them to go away and stop bothering you. But if they explained to you the reason why, you are more likely to heed. So in the same way, children don't respond very well to orders, because they have a mind to think, and if they don't see why what they are doing is wrong, then they will desire to continue doing it.
When the reason is explained to children, then the children gain by Iverstanding why they should or shouldn't do something, and they gain by learning something more than what they knew before. Also, they are more likely to listen to their parents in emergency situations, where their is no time for explanations, because they will know that their parents advice is good, and should be followed.
What often happens when people just order around and yell at the child, is that they learn to shut their ears from their mind. It is a natural defence mechanism that prevents too much strife from entering the child's mind. This then leads to more yelling, and more shutting of ears.
People just need to try to explain, and if the words they use don't work, then they can explain in another way. When the child learns from explanation and reason, they also build up their minds to gain greater Iverstanding. So they will be better at making the right decisions themself, and it will be easier for them to Iverstand future explanations.
When I was a teenager, I would sometimes babysit the children of a friend of my family. When either of the children did something wrong, I would explain to them the situation, and I could tell that they could Iverstand when I was speaking, and their future actions proved that they Iverstood. This doesn't mean that they always listened, but they usually did.
Their mother would always yell at them when they did wrong. And one day when the mother was yelling, their daughter, who must have been between 4 and 6 at the time, yelled back at her mother and asked her why she doesn't deal with her like I do. She told her mother that I explain to her what is wrong, and so she listens to I.
People need to stop seeing limits in their children's mind, and realize how smart they are. The child will be blessed with greater guidance, and the parents will be blessed with a child of greater Iverstanding, as taught to them by their parents.
Jah Blessings and Strength,
Ark I
RasTafarI
Haile Selassie I
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