"Too friendly" = flirting then?
I only disagree in that saying "too" friendly implies a line has been crossed and as I said in general I think flirting is innocent, it is only when emotions or physical gets involved that a line has been crossed.
I am not really sure how those kinda people fare, I have known a couple of them briefly tho and I never really overstood that, I guess it is like voyerism in a way, I dunno, I guess like the same as swinging in a way, I dunno about those things tho that is not my lifestyle.
Those club promoters tho yeah I have known some of them and what you said is true but hey that goes wayyyy beyond flirting at work, that is not comparable.
Flirting is just a friendly conversation in which there is probably some element of attraction at least on one side. A friendly conversation, even if one person is interested in more, if it stays on the level of a conversation only, then no harm done.
I go to shows solo sometimes too, nothing wrong with that, I guess the difference is just the venue choice but if reggae music is playing I might theoretically venture to a bar, been a long time tho since we have like our local sound system doing outdoor events and then recently just a couple strongs ago I did go down to see Dezarie beloved mama when she came thru at the World Beat. And my King wasnt able to go so I did go alone even tho I know I am gonna see the whole crew down there. But anyways I was smoking outside and a man asks me to use my lighter and we spark up a nice interesting conversation started talking about some deeper topics and he was a real cool dude for sure, I honestly don't remember his name but he was a nice guy and we chat for a half hour or so. So was that flirting? Maybe so on his side, probably not, he didnt seem like it anyway. To me he was just a human with interesting things to say and ganja to smoke, seemed like I was the same to him too. I know for 1000% that my Kingman would have no issue with me having a nice chat with a guy at a show. Because there was absolutely nothing else to it.
So I think this kind of gets at the original question right? I went to a music venue alone, my Kingman was cool with me going there, I had a chat with a man when I was there, and is that wrong - No.
Self respect and self confidence are a must in relationships on both sides. If one or both people are lacking in either one... there are gonna be lots of issues.
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