Greetings Idren! Greetings Sista Meca!
This is something I have been asked a lot... as well as the question of "will you link me with one of your sistren"...
Olivebranch I think the I is right, most of us are avoiding society and/or married and/or taking care of our children.
A lot of Rastaman make that suggestion of taking a woman under your wing and teach her. I am not sure that teaching a womban is really the solution... as I as womban know we are fully capable of self mastery without any one trying to mold or guide us.. As a young womban she might find solace in being taught, but I can almost guarantee that she will reach a point later on where she rethinks or rejects those ideas because they did not come from inside of her...
It comes across as quite condescending, from a woman's perspective, to hear men say if you haven't found a woman yet, you can train one to be the woman you desire. It doesn't work that way Iyah... (Bongo Meca I wonder if the I agree on that sentiment?)... and as a womban who has tried many times to teach or mold a man into what I wanted him to be, I know it does not work the other way around.
I have seen a couple of Rastaman around my city who eventually settle down and have a family with women who are super righteous and sweet, lovely girls, and we Rasta sistren welcome them fully, yet they never lock up or wear red gold and green or mention Haile Selassie I, yet they raise their Kingman children and they coexist happily with Rasta.
It seems, from the outside looking in, that their marriages are based on respect and unconditional love, and they are truly happy. So I am not sure being with a Rastawomban is really the absolute necessity for every Rastaman - I would focus more on a righteous womban in general, kind womban, loving soul, truthful and upright life, so on. Find a womban you can respect as she is, do not ever go into a relationship expecting to change the other person even one bit.
And Levite I... just to mention how moon/sun/celestial "worship"/observation and practical application, as well as buddhism as well which I think the I was calling "baduism"?, all originates in Afrika and therefore is not truly separate from this incient trod... So if a womban is into those things and she also is living an upful life, healthy, love Ital food, as most womban along those path do, then she might not be overlooked as a partner, she could make a very righteous lovely partner and mother, and live in peace and harmony with Rastaman.
As individuals I think it is a mistake to assume that our partner has to be learning the exact same lesson in life as we are. We all, every human, has their own awakening path, their own journey through this life and the afterlife, so we should strive to live in respect and harmony with those around us while focusing on our own lessons.
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