Such a great response Garveys Africa. Yes I, the word choice there is something I never realized, how "classy" indicates a class system. But of course it does.
Sis Bongo Meca, African standards of beauty really vary from tribe to tribe. Some bind their heads to create a longer skull. Some put clay plates in their lips. Some tattoo their faces. Stretch ear lobes. Wear pounds and pounds of beads. Rub their skin with butter and red soil to make it a rich red color. And that is not all. The practices are so varied. The thing is, they do what they do for reasons, ancient reasons, and even if it does not please outside cultures, they do it still because it is their own standard they are paying attention to, not outside opinions. I pray these cultures keep with their traditions because it seems like as the decades roll on, more and more groups lose their traditional clothing and style, language and practices. And that would be so sad, for all of the world to be homogenized into such a boring imitation of western culture which is so undeserving of being imitated.
Being feminine, being beautiful, being stunning, these are all subjective. The key is to change your own mind, set your own programming to tell you that natural is the absolute height of beauty. And hopefully to be with a partner who agree with that too, because if your partner wants fake and you only come natural, that is not a good situation for a womban on a path to embody her divine self, and to love herself. I've known first hand what that is like, and its very demeaning and makes it really hard to love yourself when a man is constantly telling you to wear makeup, or dye your hair, or get fake boobs... Hopefully your partner is not like that because you've mentioned before he doesnt get some of these ways you're living, and hopefully that is not a source of contention. Hopefully your ways can teach him more about loving your natural self, and he will love his natural self more because of that. Either way, don't let anyone stand in the way of you loving yourself!
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