Blessings sister!
I will be answering your questions in a one-by-one format. I am not sure if my relationship would count as a "Rasta Couple" being that I am not Rasta but my partner is. I guess "Half Rasta?" lol. But I guess, I will put my response anyway as a means of providing a variation of Rasta couples. :)
1. I currently live in the same residence as my partner.
2. The overall experience is quite lovely. I enjoy being around him and vice versa for him.
3. One of the biggest challenges of our live-in relationship would be being around each other most of the time. Some people would be smothered, others not so much.As much as I love him, I am a person who sometimes literally wants to be alone...no one to see me, speak to me, etc. But that can be easily settled lol.
4. We prefer the "semi-modern" route of things "house'. I will do the laundry and cleaning most of the time. Sometimes, I will let him clean if he wants to. IMO, I prefer being the one to clean because I clean things to be a certain way but if he wants to... it's ok. He will take over the house repairs and we switch up sometimes with food acquisition.
5.Our food preparation is equally shared.
6. We try to eat together every day but sometimes we are unable to due to our jobs and so.
7. He doesn't really care about my menstrual cycles. I will let him know I am menstruating if a question is posed that relates to it. But it is not really an issue.
8. We share one bedroom all the time.
9.We do not practice celibacy.
10. Living in the same house has affected our sexual relationship for the better actually haha.
11. He is not a "conventional Rasta" so we do not practice 21 days of separation.
12. No, not really.
13. No, I would not be willing to be physically separated from my partner for the 21 days practice.
14. We currently have no children.
15. N/A
16. Money is relatively fine. I am a Radiation therapist currently and he is a construction manager, which overall the salary is pretty good.
17. We do merge our money as a household while also having our own "other money." Money to use for emergencies or our personal wants and needs.
18. N/A
19. N/A
20. We do hold regular meditation sessions together. It is one of my favorite things to do actually lol. I enjoy learning about his ways of meditation and spirituality and vice versa for him.
21. Since I am not Rasta nor Christian but my partner is Rasta, I sit and observe his practices. I will participate in the chanting and listen to him read his biblical verses. Other times, he will observe me as I practice my meditation, setting intentions and thanking my Black ancestors' are things that I practice.
22. I am very open to formal relationship counseling as communication is key and some relationships do not have that.
23. One of the major benefits for me IMO, would be just learning how to live in love, in harmony overall. How to work together, no matter what others beliefs are..etc.
24. Main sources of conflicts are usually me lol... I admit. I can be very standoffish and passive aggressive sometimes but it is something I am working on. He, on the other hand, can be too friendly. Which I don't mind at all but it bothers me how people can be so cruel and take advantage of others. Which I sometimes get annoyed at him because of his niceness.
My words of guidance for Rasta couples who are aiming to live together for the first time would be to go with the flow of things. Don't try to rush into anything. Do what you feel is right; and also don't get discouraged so easily.
I appreciate you for posting these questions. Blessed love and thank you.
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