At the end of the day, a queen simply desires and deserves respect, love, honor, protection, balance, strength, stability and overstanding. A lil humor goes a long way too...
Those qualities cannot be guaranteed by a piece of paper. Some will argue that this paper ensures each party is protected (financially and otherwise), and the children born into that union. I overs the legal aspects of this, within the constraints and mind-set of babylon system, but that so-called "guarantee" is almost as if one is anticipating the possible destruction of this union. Is it protection or projection? Smart and wise decision or manifestation of fear?
The tradition of marriage and it's principles part of InI kulcha. And the ceremony.
Everything else is not.
On a side note, slavery has had a big impact on how Black people (brothas especially) view marriage. One that is deeply ingrained. Firstly, it was generally not allowed. And so, we created our own tradition of "jumping the broom" for ceremony is a part of who we are. But our unions were not our own. It was held captive by "massa's" whims and economic decisions. He had the right to defile that union by busting into slave quarters and "taking what's his" right on our marriage bed. Planting his foreign seed into ini wombs. Or forcing our husbands ("studs") to "breed" children with a next woman. Or worse, rape a brothah according to his homosexual whims.
Either could be sold at any time, for any reason. Our children were not even our own. Our men emasculated. Women forced to become hard. Become "fathers". A complete state of confusion and horror.
This has had a DEEEEEEEEEEEP and terrible affect on the Black Family, how we view and treat each other. Our conditioned ideas of ROME-MANCE versus our natural AFRO-MANTIC ones. The principles of defending, protecting and providing for our women and children. What our original marriage traditions were, what being the original "Holy Trinity" was about: man + woman = life, the very nucleus and foundation of CIVIL-IZATION.
A piece of paper, frankly PALES in comparison.