Most Haile Love and Peace All.
Sistren Leigh, I overstand what the I is going through.
When Iwombman first begin to seek Truth, I started smoking ganJAH and asking questions about the bible and christianity, and my family was beyond shocked. My older sister actually forbid I from seeing her child for a couple of years, because she thought that Iwombman had gone crazy, she actually said that I was demon possessed by "a spirit of confusion" because of all the questions I posed. It took a lot of time, but most of the family eventually warmed to the changes, and my sister eventually changed her mind as well. In part, I know that I had to make some changes in order to return the comfort to our relationships. For a long time, I did not speak of "myself" at all around them, I would only ask them how they are doing and just play with the children. When I was able to be calm and humble around them, their comfort returned, they realized that I am more at peace than I was before all of the seeking, and through this, I think they began to accept Iyah.
As for the people who don't accept the I divine rights to THINK and SPEAK and LIVE UP, I would remove Iself from those people as much as possible. I would not even talk about "this is what I will do when I have children" to that person, if the person is only going to mock I views.
And remember I Goddess, the family members may be spiritually lost, and may need even more grace. Strive for Overstanding over being Overstood, seen? Try to think of where she is coming from - she may even feel that her own mothering skills are being insulted when the I talk about what the I would do differently.
If I wanted to say something like that to my mother, I would phrase it like, "I know that you always tried as hard as you could to make sure we had special holidays. And i have so many good memories of all of that time together. But now, seeing it from an adult perspective, I don't think it is right to lie to children about invented characters, and it seems like the whole gift tradition just breeds greed and discontentment. And it is more of a gift to the big business man than it is to anyone else, to spend so much money supporting this tradition. So I would hope that you can see where I'm coming from with that when I have my own kids, if I choose not to celebrate holiday with them."
The hair issue may be the same, she may feel that the I is judging or condemning her practices, simply because the I choose differently. It may be as simple as saying, "I respect your authority over your own hygiene habits, I just have chosen differently, and I have good reasons. But I don't judge your decisions."
I am not saying that it is a personal fault, that the family responds the way they do. But I hope that the I can also see what I am saying - that sometimes we can change the whole picture if we humble and give kind words, even when other people act rude or defensive. We are ALL a work in progress haha.
Iwombman have a very close relationship with I MAMA GODDESS. But it is not a daughter-mother relationship. I give her advice just as much as she gives I. It took realizing that she and I are ONE, she is not my mother, She is I. I am she, in a different form. I am in her life to guide her, just as much as she is in Iwombman life to guide I. Sistren, one soul, one being. When she shows imperfections, I forgive them, because she has forgiven mine for so many years. We are reflections of each other. We have to be gracious and merciful to each other.
By the way, even now as far as we have come, my family members still make comments like "it looks like you have a towel on your head." Well, so what if it does look that way? Haha sometimes the Iyer I just has to take the Iyer ground, seen?
As far as personal practices to rewire the mind and retune the vibes, physical yoga really does help for I, as well as running when really stressed! I can imagine that walking with the doggie helps too ♡;; If the I want tips getting started with yoga, I will try to walk the I through some beginning practices. It may require a phone call haha.
Bredren Joe Iyah, give thanks for sharing the Ixperiences also. I can relate to watching parents poison themselves on meat n cheese, not wanting to change although they know it would heal them. My biological father is wheelchair bound at only 65 because of obesity and gout, and despite his claims that he will "go vegan", nothing changes, and it only gets worse! Truly Idren, do not feel bad about refusing their food! The I should feel Irie and know that the I is building a better future than the ones these sick people have built for themselves. As the I said, Iman can only Iducate and live by Ixample. It is up to each human to make wise choices and Live Up. I hope that as the years go on, the I will Itinue to be a good Ixample, and the family will be inspired to change! And if not, at least the I shall Itinue to love them. Health is important, but love is even more so, agreed?
Guidance JAH Most High I&I&I