"I sight the reasoning about projected trust and proven trust. It's like the first is necessary for the 2nd to manifest."
Lol, how do you do that,beloved? how do you say what took i three paragraphs to say in one line?
Well, i am a bit uncertain as to what exactly the i is struggling with, if you could make it a bit clearer,it would be i honor to help in any way possible.
But i think i can say this, if it was ever a question of either complete trust or no trust at all, i would gladly chose complete trust, no matter the pitfalls,no matter how many times people let you down or whatever. Ini create the world we live in,and i wouldnt want to live in a world with no trust.
If i trust a 100 people and 99 let i down, it would still be worth it just to find that one trustworthy person.
I want to ask the i Rook, about your woman, if you found out after 6 years that you couldnt trust her anymore, looking back, would you give up those 6 years of the love that you shared ?
I ask because i have gone thru similiar, and even though in the end it caused i such pain, i still wouldnt give up the time we shared together for anything.
So i could never say, ah it was a mistake to trust her.
The only mistake was on her part, she let i down,and she has to deal with it according to her consciousness, i have i consciousness clear.I dont consider iself a fool for trusting her.
Perhaps in the end,it all comes down to how much one is williing to risk.
In a relationship, one might say, i am prepared to trust and risk having my heart broke......
but in these cold streets, how many will say, i am prepared to trust and risk having my life taken from me
"humble as a dove,and wise as a serpent"
it applies,wouldnt you agree?
Since i said,we create the world we live in, let i share somethings i have noticed since i was a child, i am talking schooldays now.
You know, how some kids can just lie blatantly, you know,nothing serious, just kids stuff, like ... i did this,i did that, my daddy got me this lol etc..
Now most of the students,when one kid is telling these kinds of things,would immediately jump up, like, STOP LYING, .. and this and that, and name calling would begin, a whole mess
Iself, i was never like that,only JAH knows why, i never liked to make ones uncomfortable like that,perhaps. Anyway, so they would tell i such things, and even though i always knew it was pure lies, i would just say things like, ah,thats nice, kool. I would never confront them and say , you are lying.
And guess what strange thing happened. As we grew up, i became like one of the most trustworthy peole in the whole school. Those same kids who were so prone to tell lies, while they sometimes continued to lie to others, completely ceased lying to i, instead strangely, i became the person that they would confide in,i became the person to whom they would tell their most intimate Truths,which they would never tell to others,never to those that used to confront them.
It was always strange to i,because, you know say in every school,you have the "bad" crowd and the good students, and i was somehow somewhere in the middle. Because in the teachers eyes, i wouldnt be consider to be "bad", cause even tho i had i share of problems, i was usually just quiet and kept to iself. But on the other hand all my friends were of what would be considered the "bad" side. It went to such an extent that i hardly ever had fights in school, because lol, i was "protected" ,not that i ever asked to be, but everyone knew who were my friends,so everyone knew not to mess with i. And for the longest while i couldnt overs it, i couldnt see what others saw in i, even well after school. It even continued to when i was living in London,North, Finsbury park,Tottenham, There were times when some big dealer would come and give i a big bundle of money and ask i to hold it for him, and i just look at him like, why in the world are you trusting me?
And even now,I am so humbled and grateful that Ark I would trust i enough to ask i to help him administrate this Forum.
So for me, it has always been way more important to be trustworthy, to everyone, not just to those who trust you
Cultivate trust, and it will surround you.
Dont matter those who let you down and betray you, the only thing they could hurt is your pride by making you feel like a fool for trusting them, but then again,pride is a sin, so take that as an opportunity to cleanse yourself