most respect ten,
honestly ten --in person is much easier than on the net. i say this is class -- i say this to adiminstrators --- to other teachers. it is easier in person because they can see what you here can not. they can see my eyes, they can see my body language and facial expressions and they can hear i tone of voice. they know i care deeply for my students and people who are struggling and who are oppressed.
i was just having this discussion yesterday with a black teacher. we talked of choices, we talked of obstacles that are inner city kids face---- i said the same thing -----and she did not get upset ---she hears me, sees me, and knows me ---she knows how much i care. she evens says basically the same thing ----
i have tried to explain the difficulties of discussing over the net. i have revealed much of myself on the net to help one know me. not only do people hear what they want to hear, but many times we hear the way we want to hear as well.---like if that was me saying it i would say it like this.
i was telling a class once how angry and ticked off i was at their behavior. how disappointed i was. one student raises his hand and says "but mr. t you don't look or sound upset"
i care about people --and i am very concerned for young people. i have adopted 5 kids (5 kids that i wife and i will not allow to lay the path of their life on their environment). we have spent our own money to send books and soccer balls to schools in zimbabwe. i spent my own money when going to jamaica to bring books and things to a school. we don't have a lot of money --and most of it is my fault. in zimbabwe my wife had to carry the money because i kept giving it to the street kids. in jamaica i gave clothes away that i brought to wear.
when i hear bob say "that my life is for the people. if was just about me, myself --i wouldn't want it" those words ring so true to i.
life happens to us --there is no debating ---- but then it is our choice on how we will respond to what has happened.
if i may recommend a book on this subject it is called "seven habits of highly effective people"by steven covey you may find it interesting.