yin and yang
I think one thing people should try to understand is that energy seeks balance and everything is energy. But sometimes people see in black and white because they/we were taught in very rigid structures. And yes, discipline often benefits from rigidity. However, the universe isn't black and white. It's a spectrum. This is the mistake I've made and watched other people make for decades.
Just because she is a she... doesn't mean there is no "he"... that is in there. too.
Both genders have masculine and feminine energy inside them and one is dominant and that is their gender. We would all very much like this gender to match their outer appearance but this is not always the case, genetically. It's a spectrum. Depending on where someone is on the spectrum they are socialized or "pushed" towards a pole as the magnetic forces of society tell us all how to be men and women. But that doesn't mean this social programming by society always works or that personality traits that don't match their physiology should be suppressed just because it makes society more comfortable.
We say some women are "tomboys" because we have to categorize them and put them into some kind of box that we can haphazardly slap a label on. Sometimes that label is very disrespectful or even traumatic. Some people are so in between in their natural biology that their physiology is affected and they can have both sets of reproductive organs. But even in normal cases, men have nipples and women have a clitoris. How do we explain these things if not that human is a spectrum of one species?
What am I saying? Why is all this necessary just to talk about a "woman's position"?
Because we need to understand that there is no such thing as a woman's position. These positions are formed by society as part of a "SYSTEM" of social order. This may be uncomfortable to hear but no less true. Just as some cultures seek to dominate others physically in order to control them for their own personal gain and benefit (ie racism/slavery), there are societies where men sought to dominate women, to control them... for their own personal gain and benefit (sexism/patriarchy).
This becomes a system of oppression. That's why women didn't get voting rights until later; EVEN WHITE WOMEN.
It is very difficult to undo one system (racism) when we are upholding another very similar system (sexism) because the two are intertwined, having the same core belief. And that is that one side is naturally better and should therefore lead/dominate and the other should be submissive and servile.
I'm more in favor of meritocracy; recognizing a person's strengths and weaknesses, not a man or a woman's strengths and weaknesses. We can separate sports because men tend to be stronger, but there are plenty of women who are stronger than men. It's just a handicap there. But when it comes to emotions? The handicap may go in the other direction. And both maybe just a matter of hormones.
I mean it's very easy to speculate on what someone ELSE should do, be, how they should act, etc. when it doesn't involve us. As a man, I cannot relate to being a woman. Therefore, my experience is only on the receiving end. So I can only really comment in terms of how we communicate and work together as a single unit. But to me, that is yin and yang. And sometimes a single person can be in and sometimes they can be yang. Sometimes their partner is yin and sometimes their partner is yang. Every couple has to find the right balance that works for them. Too often people try to force this through expectations and it creates tons of friction, frustration, and sometimes even violence. Each individual needs to be able to express themselves and if the other doesn't like it... well we also need to realize that not everyone is compatible.
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