I agree with using the right approach when dealing with people. There is a right time and right way to say things to a person. I and I shouldn't speak in vanity. If we can't speak in a way that can be heard, then there is not much use in speaking, because we will just be blowing air and casting pearls to swine.
Here are two examples below about considering the approach we use. I posted these examples in the past.
One time I was with a Bredren of mine. He brought I to his Queen's house and we were reasoning. He had brought I as a mediator between them because they were having a lot of problems. But he didn't tell I until afterwards that he brought I for this purpose. They were speaking and they started arguing, I can't remember exactly what they were arguing about. They then involved I by asking I questions about their argument. I could tell from the spirit of I bredren, that he was confident and thought that I would be on his side in the matter. And I could tell from the spirit of the woman, that she was very defensive, because she perceived that it was two against her.
Both were in the wrong, but I knew that if I spoke about the woman at that time, that she would not listen to a word and would only increase in vexation. So I first spoke about what the bredren dealt with. She started to feel less defensive as I was speaking, because I was speaking of his wrongs. After a little while her confidence rose up higher and I could tell that she was in a better mindset to hear I words. So I spoke about the things that she was dealing with, and she heard I words without any vexation at all.
Afterwards, I told her how I perceived her spirit in the beginning, and that I waited until I perceived that she was able to hear what I said. She looked so surprised and asked I how I knew. I told her that it was Jah.
In the summer of 2001, I Empress and I went to a streetcar stop near the place I and I lived in Toronto. It was the evening and I and I were going to meet some Idren and Sistrens downtown.
There was a man walking down the street yelling at a next man. The man walked across the street to get away from him, but the other man followed him.
The man that was yelling stopped following the next man, and started walking towards I Empress and I. He was yelling "Get out of my country you foreigner"
He had straight hair down to his shoulders and looked rough. He also appeared drunk. He went right up close to my face and was calling I a foreigner and telling I to leave his country. I brought up I spirit and with Jah Love, pushed it out.
Then I started to speak, while still pushing out the spirit. I told him that I was born in Canada. He asked I where I was born. I said Brockville, Ontario. He then asked, "What about her?", refering to I Empress. I told him that she was born here too. And I Itinued to look him in the eyes and pushed Jah spirit out more. I remained calm with the help of Jah.
The man told I that his grandmother died, and he wasn't allowed to go to her funeral in Montreal. He was on parole and when he called to ask if he could go, the man speaking to him had an accent, so that is why he was vex at foreigners.
He said that he explained to the man that he needed to go to his grandmother's funeral but the man still said no. He said that he was mad and furious and I told him that I don't blame him for being angry. But I said to him that he must remember that whether he goes or not, his grandmother will always be alive in himself. I told him "I hope that there is some way that you can go, but if you can't, just remember that."
I told him to think about his grandmother and talk to people about her so that her life could Itinue in them as well. I said that he is from his grandmother's line, and that her life is his life.
He said to I "You're lucky that you are a good man because I was going to come here and kill you", he said, "I'm stupid, I would have killed you if you weren't a good man, I'm stupid, I would break glass and cut your throat, but the one up there (pointing up) told me not to"
For a while, he went on talking about how stupid he is. Then he said, "Someone out there is lucky that I ran into you tonight, I would have killed someone, I'm stupid, but now that I talked to you, I am just going to go to the shelter, take some valium and go to sleep."
If I reacted with force or anger, I could have been killed or hurt, but instead Jah Love calmed the serpent, and caused it to leave the man. It is important to read people's spirits to know what to speak, when to speak, and how to speak.
Haile Selassie I