Zion Mountain said:
"Greetings Chica....I Iverstand what the I is saying,the reason why I never told her dat I was Rastafari is because at the time we met,I never had the full overstanding of Rastafari,I hadnt risen to dat level of Iritual maturity,I was standing at a crossroad.The defeat I was refering to is not of controlling everything,wat i meant as a defeat is giving up Rastafari for our relationship because according to her,I livity especially the locks is the cause of all the problems and she said unless I trim she won't tolerate dat in our relationship,so I was saying wouldn't it seem dat I'm accepting defeat if I keep on calling her yet I fully overs dat she won't tolerate I locks,and I was asking,wont it(calling her)make her take advantage of I to fully convert I,dats wat I meant when I said defeat.What shud I do sister Chica,help I"
Greetings Brother Zion Mountain. Please forgive me for taking so long to respond but I just found this post today as I was reading up on other posts these past few weeks.
Brother Zion, if someone told me I could no longer be me, but would have to change into their category of who I am and what I should be, I strongly feel I would have to question how much that person cares about me. I would feel that person is asking me to live a lie and be something that I am not. So if I have to live a lie in order to be with that person, I feel I would be better off without that person. I need a relationship that will foster who I am, and not try to make me be someone other than me. My partner should be able to love me enough to accept me as I am. Otherwise, I can't see keeping that person in my life as my partner. I find when people make demands on us to change who we are, even if we decide to change, they are STILL not satisfied! Then they want to change another thing, another thing, another thing. Then they leave the relationship anyway and say something like, "We just didn't fit." Be careful what you give up in trying to please others.
By the way, is she willing to give up anything to please you?
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