Yes, and so i guess the other side to my point, you've said why it is you need that piece of paper, but honestly, and i apologize if any offense is taken at this, but it almost sounds like you have some level of insecurity behind all this, like that piece of paper is everything, post after post what it comes down to, is you, and by you i making more of a generality directed towards yourself and any others who may feel this way, but you need that piece of paper as proof of everything, as if words are not enough. Being born and raised in Texas, one of the biggest things i learned since i was knee high to a grasshopper was that a man's word is everything. And as a man if you break your word, if you become an untrustworthy individual, then you are no longer seen as man, but more along the lines of a child, or worse depending on your own personal views. If you trust and love someone, their word should be enough, and in the same respect, if someone loves you and trusts you then when you give them your word, they should be able to trust you, IOU's are for someone you don't trust, but when my best friend tells me he'll pay me back, i don't ask him to write it and sign it, i give him a handshake and tell him i'm not too worried because i know he will, seen?
p.s. past all that, marriage is an institution which is respected by some, and seen as blasphemy by others, at the end of the day i feel like it's all about what you want, but if my shot earlier was anywhere close, then let go of the past, if your eyes are still clouded with views from the past, then how can you truly seen the sun rise on a new day?
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